From the Toronto Globe and Mail

You’ve had a really hard day. The printer failed and you had to spend an hour – which you couldn’t spare – on the phone with IT. Your back started acting up again. Andrea was going crazy about the Trundley account. And that was all before lunchtime.

The afternoon was worse. A 45-minute meeting became two hours. You missed a half-dozen client calls. The car’s making weird, expensive-sounding noises. Oh, right – and the dog got out. Perfect.

“Dad, there’s no bread. How am I supposed to make a sandwich for myself if there’s no bread? You have to go out and get bread.”

“Austin, I’ve had a really hard day. I just need you to cut me some slack right now. Okay?”

“But I want a sandwich. I always eat a sandwich when I come home from school. You know that.” ...


From The Globe and Mail

The problem

Your teenager isn’t trying at school and is getting failing grades. How involved should you be in getting them on track? Should you let them fail?

“My parents need to back off. All that nagging does is make me less likely to do my homework – out of spite. I’d get way more done if they would just leave me alone.”

Could your truculent teen actually be right? There is a strong argument for not being a homework cop. How will they ever learn to take the responsibility for doing what needs to be done if you are always on their case?