Oct
06
2009

When the questions get hot, stay cool

Fifteen-year-old Alexis and her mother are in the car.

"Mom, do condoms work?"

"What?"

"Do condoms work?"

"Why do you ask?"

"Mom, I'm just asking a question. Do condoms work?"

"Well, yes. No. I guess so. Sort of. I don't know. Usually. Work against what? Why are you asking?"

Meanwhile, this is what's going through her mom's mind: "Is she having sex? Is she planning to have sex? Omigod, did she have sex and use a condom, but now she thinks she might be pregnant? Is she playing games with me to see how I'll answer? Trying to shock me? If I give her a simple answer will she think I'm being casual and giving her permission to have sex?"

Sometimes, out of nowhere, seemingly innocently, your teen will ask a question that is so loaded and so fraught with implications that it feels impossible to answer. It's an instant dilemma. The question demands an answer, yet you feel any response you offer will either be insufficient or send the wrong message.

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Sep
28
2009

An article from the Atlanta Journal-Constitution highlights a recent study linking

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Sep
22
2009

It's tough not to come to your teen's defence. But you both need to learn that you won't always be there

Alex's mother is at work when she gets the call.

"Mrs. Crestman?"

"Yes?"

"This is Charles Neely, assistant principal at the high school. You are going to have come down to the school and pick up Alex. He has been suspended for the day for fighting with another student."

When she retrieves her teenager, this is the story as described by the school: A teacher on hall duty saw Alex give a hard push to another boy, causing the boy to lose his balance and fall. The other boy said it was unprovoked. Alex would also be suspended for the following day - the automatic penalty for any fighting in school.

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Sep
18
2009

Similar to other national surveys that track underage drinking, the 2008-09 Pride survey shows significant decreases in drinking

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