Asking your 18-year-old to check in at all hours can wreck your sleep and prolong your worrying
Dear Dr. Wolf,
Our 18-year-old son has moved back home for the summer after being in residence at university for a year. He comes and goes as he pleases. But I asked for one thing: that he phone if he's planning to stay out all night. I can't help that I worry. My husband says it's irrational and worrying doesn't solve anything. Recently, our son went to a party and when he wasn't home by 3 a.m. I phoned him. He could barely hear me and said he wouldn't be home until much later and not to worry. I disturbed my husband's sleep and he ended up getting up at 3 a.m., unable to fall back to sleep. My husband doesn't think I should enforce this phone rule because he doesn't want our son to move out. Do you think I'm being unreasonable?
Dear Sleepless Mom,
Kids will say that one of the great things about being away at university is that if they’re staying out until God knows when, doing God knows what, their parents aren’t there to worry about it.